South Africa: The Play PumpTurning water into child's play
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Tuesday, April 28, 2009
Uganda - A little goes a long way
Uganda: A Little Goes a Long Way
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http://www.pbs.org/frontlineworld/stories/uganda601/video_index.html
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Low Self-Esteem in Children
What are the signs of low self-esteem?
To help you determine if your child has low self-esteem, watch for the following signals. They could be everyday responses to how your child relates to the world around him, or they might occur only occasionally in specific situations. When they become a repeated pattern of behavior, you need to become sensitive to the existence of a problem.
Your child avoids a task or challenge without even trying. This often signals a fear of failure or a sense of helplessness.
He quits soon after beginning a game or a task, giving up at the first sign of frustration.
He cheats or lies when he believes he's going to lose a game or do poorly.
He shows signs of regression, acting baby like or very silly. These types of behavior invite teasing and name-calling from other youngsters, thus adding insult to injury.
He becomes controlling, bossy, or inflexible as ways of hiding feelings of inadequacy, frustration, or powerlessness.
He makes excuses ("The teacher is dumb") or downplays the importance of events ("I don't really like that game anyway"), uses this kind of rationalizing to place blame on others or external forces.
His grades in school have declined, or he has lost interest in usual activities.
He withdraws socially, losing or having less contact with friends.
He experiences changing moods, exhibiting sadness, crying, angry outbursts, frustration, or quietness.
He makes self-critical comments, such as "I never do anything right," "Nobody likes me," "I'm ugly," "It's my fault," or "Everyone is smarter than I am."
He has difficulty accepting either praise or criticism.
He becomes overly concerned or sensitive about other people's opinions of him.
He seems to be strongly affected by negative peer influence, adopting attitudes and behaviors like a disdain for school, cutting classes, acting disrespectfully, shoplifting, or experimenting with tobacco, alcohol, or drugs.
He is either overly helpful or never helpful at home.
To help you determine if your child has low self-esteem, watch for the following signals. They could be everyday responses to how your child relates to the world around him, or they might occur only occasionally in specific situations. When they become a repeated pattern of behavior, you need to become sensitive to the existence of a problem.
Your child avoids a task or challenge without even trying. This often signals a fear of failure or a sense of helplessness.
He quits soon after beginning a game or a task, giving up at the first sign of frustration.
He cheats or lies when he believes he's going to lose a game or do poorly.
He shows signs of regression, acting baby like or very silly. These types of behavior invite teasing and name-calling from other youngsters, thus adding insult to injury.
He becomes controlling, bossy, or inflexible as ways of hiding feelings of inadequacy, frustration, or powerlessness.
He makes excuses ("The teacher is dumb") or downplays the importance of events ("I don't really like that game anyway"), uses this kind of rationalizing to place blame on others or external forces.
His grades in school have declined, or he has lost interest in usual activities.
He withdraws socially, losing or having less contact with friends.
He experiences changing moods, exhibiting sadness, crying, angry outbursts, frustration, or quietness.
He makes self-critical comments, such as "I never do anything right," "Nobody likes me," "I'm ugly," "It's my fault," or "Everyone is smarter than I am."
He has difficulty accepting either praise or criticism.
He becomes overly concerned or sensitive about other people's opinions of him.
He seems to be strongly affected by negative peer influence, adopting attitudes and behaviors like a disdain for school, cutting classes, acting disrespectfully, shoplifting, or experimenting with tobacco, alcohol, or drugs.
He is either overly helpful or never helpful at home.
Self-Esteem
How children begin to classify themselves with labels, i.e "ugly, dumb, poor, lazy", etc? Where on earth did they get those ideas from?
Self Esteem is defined as the degree to which you like yourself, and to which you feel worthy. Some people feel they are not worthy enough to get the job they want, earn the money they want, get the relationship they want. These are self limiting beliefs, and as long as you hold on to them, you will not be able to experience the abundance that life wants to give you. But Ade, how can I do that, you ask? Good question, I will tell you how.
The secret is to let go of all the negative beliefs which do not serve you, and choose to love and like yourself. It is a choice! The kicker is that you subconscious has been programmed with so much negativity you need to work, to reprogram yourself. The tools you need are affirmations and visualization.
Visualize yourself as the person you want to be do, and have. Set goals for your life and career. Write them down. Doing this activates your mental powers and pushes you towards achievement, like a heat seeking missile.
Constantly affirm to yourself "I like myself! I choose to like myself". Wake up everyday and tell yourself that you are the best. Focus on the picture of your idea self, and you will become it.
Self Esteem is defined as the degree to which you like yourself, and to which you feel worthy. Some people feel they are not worthy enough to get the job they want, earn the money they want, get the relationship they want. These are self limiting beliefs, and as long as you hold on to them, you will not be able to experience the abundance that life wants to give you. But Ade, how can I do that, you ask? Good question, I will tell you how.
The secret is to let go of all the negative beliefs which do not serve you, and choose to love and like yourself. It is a choice! The kicker is that you subconscious has been programmed with so much negativity you need to work, to reprogram yourself. The tools you need are affirmations and visualization.
Visualize yourself as the person you want to be do, and have. Set goals for your life and career. Write them down. Doing this activates your mental powers and pushes you towards achievement, like a heat seeking missile.
Constantly affirm to yourself "I like myself! I choose to like myself". Wake up everyday and tell yourself that you are the best. Focus on the picture of your idea self, and you will become it.
From an interesting article...
1 Spend time each day with confident people. Their energy and inner strength is so inspiring that you will find yourself feeling more empowered just by listening to them talk.
2 Find a mentor. Nearly all successful people have a mentor. You too need someone who has already done what you are working to achieve who is willing to advise you and offer confidence tips. This person will help you to succeed even more quickly than you can imagine. Remember, two minds are better than one. When you have someone who believes in you and you have a plan you believe in -- your confidence will soar.
3 Understand that confidence is only a feeling. This is one of those unusual confidence tips but still very useful.
4 List your reasons to be confident
5 Make a public declaration. Speak it aloud! Tell someone whose opinion you value. You will start finding solutions to problems that left you stuck and you will seek advice from people who can help you.
6 Preparation makes perfect. Practice, practice and more practice. I read an article about Pavarotti, the opera singer, and he said he practices daily and he still learns something new about his voice each day!
7 Self comparison is key. Compare your progress in life with your previous results. Look to the success of others to learn and not to measure your own success. When you put your focus on the daily improvement of your own skills and abilities you can and will grow very quickly. And your confidence will surge. You will be a living example of the power of these simple confidence tips. Confidence without competence is a dangerous combination. Make it easy for yourself and only engage in self-comparison when you are assessing your progress. By doing this you will make it easier to keep at it when the going gets tough and your competence will grow day by day.
2 Find a mentor. Nearly all successful people have a mentor. You too need someone who has already done what you are working to achieve who is willing to advise you and offer confidence tips. This person will help you to succeed even more quickly than you can imagine. Remember, two minds are better than one. When you have someone who believes in you and you have a plan you believe in -- your confidence will soar.
3 Understand that confidence is only a feeling. This is one of those unusual confidence tips but still very useful.
4 List your reasons to be confident
5 Make a public declaration. Speak it aloud! Tell someone whose opinion you value. You will start finding solutions to problems that left you stuck and you will seek advice from people who can help you.
6 Preparation makes perfect. Practice, practice and more practice. I read an article about Pavarotti, the opera singer, and he said he practices daily and he still learns something new about his voice each day!
7 Self comparison is key. Compare your progress in life with your previous results. Look to the success of others to learn and not to measure your own success. When you put your focus on the daily improvement of your own skills and abilities you can and will grow very quickly. And your confidence will surge. You will be a living example of the power of these simple confidence tips. Confidence without competence is a dangerous combination. Make it easy for yourself and only engage in self-comparison when you are assessing your progress. By doing this you will make it easier to keep at it when the going gets tough and your competence will grow day by day.
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